I have been disliked by many people. Perhaps some of this dislike may even have been justified, what with my multiple reported flaws. People I have met (and people I have never even been in the same room as) have found reason to dislike me, I have discovered.
And I’m really fine with that, in fact I’m very fine with that. Really, I am. I have long since realised that this is how the world works, how those people on it get around.
The practical reality of existing on a sphere full of people whose behaviour, feelings, opinions and words are largely influenced by ego, attitudes, fear, greed, insecurity and social programming is that there will always be those who find fault in someone else.
No matter how ‘nice’ we are, or how nice we try to be, people will always find (or perhaps create) a reason / rational explanation / justification for not liking someone else. And of course there will also be those amazing, incredible, positive people who will encourage, support and love you no matter what.
But remember this: compromise should not be an option for those who just want to be liked. That way, one may indeed end up being liked by others but also being loathed by oneself. And that way lies madness, sadness and badness.
You shouldn’t have to work at being popular; work at being yourself instead. This is a lot easier and requires far less energy and acting. Identify your core values, those things that are most important to you, and try to live a life in alignment with them.
And I’m really fine with that, in fact I’m very fine with that. Really, I am. I have long since realised that this is how the world works, how those people on it get around.
The practical reality of existing on a sphere full of people whose behaviour, feelings, opinions and words are largely influenced by ego, attitudes, fear, greed, insecurity and social programming is that there will always be those who find fault in someone else.
No matter how ‘nice’ we are, or how nice we try to be, people will always find (or perhaps create) a reason / rational explanation / justification for not liking someone else. And of course there will also be those amazing, incredible, positive people who will encourage, support and love you no matter what.
But remember this: compromise should not be an option for those who just want to be liked. That way, one may indeed end up being liked by others but also being loathed by oneself. And that way lies madness, sadness and badness.
You shouldn’t have to work at being popular; work at being yourself instead. This is a lot easier and requires far less energy and acting. Identify your core values, those things that are most important to you, and try to live a life in alignment with them.
If you can do this, you are being your authentic self rather than trying to satisfy somebody else’s needs, expectations, values, demands and rules. When your decisions and behaviour reflect your core life values, you will be able to live a life of synergy, harmony and contentment. The ‘need’ to be liked will be a non-issue.
And that’s all I have to say about that.
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